Monday, 29 January 2018

Being in Your Early Twenties


Top: H&M Trend | Skirt: Monki | Boots: Doctor Martens

Being in your early twenties is a strange thing. These years might be the most confusing and most complicated years you'll go through. You're in those awkward gap years between childhood and adulthood. I like to think of it as the teenage years of our adulthood. While our actual teenage years are behind us, we're still skating around trying to find our balance and purpose in the world.

I don't have a lot of experience in the adult field as I'm only 22 but I have been around long enough to notice that we're still kids in the eyes of older people. We have lived long enough to qualify as "grown-ups", but we're far from grown up. We're told that this is the time we should be traveling, experiencing, and learning. We're supposed to be falling in love, having our hearts broken, climbing mountains, and spending our paychecks on drinks on friday nights. I don't fit into this perfectly painted picture of a stereotypical millennial. All I do is study. I look at PDF files and books all day and all night. I write essays and papers on my laptop for what seems like an eternity until my eyes fall shut and I collapse in front of the screen. Then I wake up the next day and repeat the process. There is literally nothing youth-like about my life and I feel like I'm missing out BIG TIME. I'm not sure how long this feeling of uncertainty will last, but I will keep you posted.
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Friday, 19 January 2018

3 Things University Has Taught Me So Far


Beret: Etsy | Skirt: Unknown | Shoes: Sonia Rykiel

It just hit me in like a sack of potatoes; I'm halfway through my bachelors degree. I find this to be bittersweet. I'm stoked that I get to move on with my life, but I'm kinda bummed that life as a student is nearing its end. As one would expect I've not only gained academic knowledge, but I've also grown tremendously as a person and learned a few things about life along the way.

The first thing I learned at university is that adulting f*cking SUCKS, but there's no way around it when you are a student at a university. You need to make a conscious effort to grow up. You are responsible for managing your own time and getting things done before your deadline. You need to eat, sleep and shower without anyone reminding you to do so. You have fewer friends than you had in high school and you don't necessarily get to see them every day. As all your friends are now adults too, they are busy with their own lives.

Speaking of which, what also came to my knowledge, during the past couple of semesters, is that you really have to make an effort to get to know people and to make new friends as an adult. It doesn't matter who you were in high school, at university you get a clean slate. People are there because they want to get an education, not because they want a new group of friends. However, if you really want to make friends, it's not impossible. You just need to find your tribe.

The most valuable lesson I've learned at university so far was during class. Last semester, I attended a course about women and diversity in the US and my professor said something in class that I think I'll always remember. She said, "Your perspective is always interesting to write about." Mad props to her for being the coolest scholar I've ever had. Her classes were so empowering and she would always encourage her students to stay woke. I know that I'll always keep those words in mind. Everyone should have the right to express themselves through writing or any other art form. Our individual perspectives are unique to our personas and is worthy of being expressed.
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Thursday, 4 January 2018

How to Dump a Guy (Without Being a Total Douchebag)

Jacket: H&M | T-shirt: Zara | Skirt: First & I | Boots: Mango

Because my dating life is an absolute disaster, this is a topic I'm getting quite experienced in. I'm really bad at saying no to begin with and I'm way too often caught in situations where I have to reject someone. These things just sorta happens sometimes. So whether your Tinder match didn’t quite live up to your expectations in real life, or you gave out your number in an act of compassion on a drunken night out, it's completely okay to change your mind. Sometimes we're just stuck in awkward situations where we have to tell someone that we’re just not interested. You don’t have to feel guilty about it and the good news are that you don’t have to be a total douchebag about it either. Here are my tips on how you dump someone the correct way…

1. Don’t ghost them. Ghosting is a fairly new term for something that has taken place since the beginning of time. It seems as if ghosting is the easiest way of slowly backing out and avoiding any kind of contact, but it’s awfully rude in my opinion. You’re wasting time on both ends and it can actually be more hurtful than if you were to just confront them. Also, it’s gonna be really awkward if you bump into each other one day and he still doesn’t know what went wrong. Have a proper confrontational conversation with them about your "relationship" and if they don't take no for an answer, then I personally give you permission to ghost them from then on out.

2. Take the blame. As cliché as “it’s not you, it’s me” is, it is in fact a really good, and often pain free, way to acquaint your lack of interest in proceeding in a relationship. Just be like “I’m at a point in life where something like this isn’t going to work for me.” They can still hate your for it, but they can't really blame you for it. Some things are just out of our control and even the people you've dated know that.

3. …But be honest. For future reference, you might want to tell them if they did something you found extremely off-putting. Wouldn’t you want to know if you did something annoying that you might be able to change? Let them know if you’re repelled by a jar of old toenails they keep hidden under their bed or if their unhealthy obsession with Game of Thrones is too much for you to keep up with.

4. Distance yourself. If you're extra nice and it's an option for you, it might be a good idea to NOT keep in touch. In my personal experience, it's better to stay out of the way so everyone can move on without getting distracted. If you go to school with them or work with them then that's kind of a bummer. However, you can always go for the good old unfriending option on Facebook. That should send them a clear signal you're done for real and then they can't slide into your DM's again.

How do you dump someone without being a total douchebag?
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Monday, 1 January 2018

How to Clear Out Your Wardrobe

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Ahhhh, the new year! Time to start fresh and leave the past behind. This is the time of year when everyone strives to become a new and improved version of themselves, but why set resolutions and goals you probs won't stick to anyway? Today, my friends, I suggest to you a resolution that causes immediate and effective results; A BRAND NEW WARDROBE!!! I'm no expert in organization, but I do know a thing or two about starting from scratch when it comes to fashion. I've had so many identity crises by now that I know the process of getting a new wardrobe by heart. Hopefully, these tips can help you on your way...
1. Establish why you need a wardrobe makeover. Perhaps you're inspired by the classic 'new year, new me' makeover as mentioned above, or maybe you gained or lost weight and need to change the size of your clothes, or maybe you're in a witness protection program? Either way, you need to figure out why you want to change your wardrobe so you can use this as a guide in the process and not get lost and sentimental over the things you get rid of. So you don't stray away from the purpose of your wardrobe clear out when you're shopping your new goods.

2. Gather inspiration and take note. Flip through the pages of your favorite fashion magazines, scroll through your favorite fashion blogs, or go to Instagram and Pinterest to find inspiration for what you want your new wardrobe to consist of. Write down what it is that you like and stick to this when you clear out your wardrobe. For some people (myself included), it's easier to have a mood board of what it is that you want in mind.

3. Sort out your current wardrobe. Look at your mood board and compare it to your all of your clothes. Get rid of anything you don't feel comfortable in. If you don't wear it and don't have an occasion to do so, ditch it. If it doesn't flatter your body or if the material doesn't feel great, that's a sign to get rid of it too.

4. Sell and donate your old clothes. The clothes you don't want anymore should be donated to the charity shop, salvation army or thrift shop. Sometimes stores like & Other Stories, H&M and Zara offers to take care of your old clothes (even if it's ripped or stained) for you so they can reuse it for new clothes. If you have something of value you should obviously try to sell it. You can sell your  clothes from high fashion brands on sites like Vestiaire Collective, while you can use Depop and Etsy for vintage clothes.

5. Buy your new clothes. Keep 1. and 2. in mind while shopping for your new wardrobe so you don't get carried away with old shopping habits. Whenever you pick up a new piece, think about at least three ways you can style and combine it with items you already own.

6. Save up for the good stuff. It's better to own one good pair of boots that will last you very long than opting for new items right off the high street. When you invest in quality pieces, you get more wear out of them and you're essentially saving money in the long run.

If you decide to clear out your wardrobe, do let me know how it went!
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