
Late one evening after a few glasses of red wine, one of my close friends asked me how I felt about everyone always asking me questions about being an only child. He asked me if I ever got tired of answering the same questions over and over again and that really made me think a lot. I don't get tired of answering questions, but once in a while you get those really stupid comments that really get on your nerves. "Isn't that, like, really lonely?" or "oh, I would just hate that so much" are the two worst responses you can give me. What do you want me to say to that? Most times I just brush it off and smile, but what I'm really thinking is "Listen, sweetie... It's not like I had much of a choice and because of comments like yours, I'm not so fond of it either." Personally, I think that being an only child sucks and this is why...
The misconceptions & 'The Only Child Syndrome'
When most people find out that you're an only child, they automatically just assume that you're greedy, spoiled and selfish. These assumptions will be used against you in an argument whether they're true or not. You cannot hide and you cannot run from 'the only child syndrome'. The only child syndrome is a label that's always gonna be attached to you so you gotta learn how to toughen up and not care too much about how others perceive you. I don't let other people define me by that. I define myself.
Always feeling like a complete weirdo
From a young age, I've learned to be alone a lot. Although I've learned to appreciate my alone time, I've always felt like a bit of a weird loner. Seeing other kids with their parents and siblings have always made me feel like there's something 'wrong' with me. It made me feel like my life was incomplete or at least just emphasized the idea that there was something missing that SHOULD have been there. It really made me feel like a weirdo and that really, really sucked.
The fear of ending up alone will always haunt you
I hope some of this debunked any misconceptions you've ever had or maybe you could see yourself in what I've written. Let me know your thoughts in the comment section!
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